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Nortirascal's avatar

Being balanced isn't boring. Being is just what it is. Who denotes these scales? Kindness exists. Soup making. As Angela Carter said I make potato soup, how do you make yours? ( Not a.direct quote!) X

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Nortirascal's avatar

Anyhow I earlier wildly danced round Granfalf's living room with a.pair of her knickers on me head. She laughed heart felt. She wasn't asking about boring or balance. Just giggle some connection.

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Ben Patrick Holden's avatar

I make mine with a shit ton of salt, herbs and marinated chicken x

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Cara's avatar

Thanks for this Ben. I’ve often had similar thoughts myself, wondering if we were all ‘healed’ and balanced, or if we all had some near perfect upbringing, would we just be some homogeneous mass with little to differentiate between us?

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Ben Patrick Holden's avatar

If you put into the pot an equal amount of every ingredient in the cupboard then you get a brown mush with no distinct flavour. This insight comes from my own action research.

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Sarah's avatar

An interesting question. I seek not 'balance' but 'integration' (off all parts of myself, of my shadow). Different in concept though perhaps similar in outcome - rounding off the 'sharp edges'. I feel more whole and at peace since I began that quest 10 years ago. Am I more boring as a result? Ask Sophie!

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Ben Patrick Holden's avatar

I have a feeling I know what she would say.

It's a good quest.

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Vasso's avatar

There is also beauty to the sweet, Trebor soft mints. What if the 'imbalance' you talk about was the rounded sweetness and those individuals decided to amplify that trait in themselves? I kind of envy people that have these traits because I believe they may be more at peace with themselves. Saying that, I much prefer the complexity of those who have exaggerated personality traits. They are infinitely more interesting and fun to get to know.

At the same time, what if someone's most dominant traits (which would be easier to amplify) are all self destructive or harmful to others around them?

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Ben Patrick Holden's avatar

All good questions Vasso. I won't attempt an answer, and don't think you expect one, but I love hearing what thoughts are sparked for you. Wanted to do a longer piece on this, but had to hit the road south for family holiday. It is blazing hot down here at World of Music and Dance festival. Full of ideas and lively people..ten thousand tents in a wooded field!

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Vasso's avatar

Yes, it's more a thought tangent than a need for answers really. This sounds wonderful. Have lots of fun.

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